You wrote "people who are not part of a minority do not get to decide whether or not they are oppressing that minority."

I would have thought that the single most repeated lesson from the Facebook transactions we had with her was her belief that the victimisation which she wraps around herself gives her the right to determine the meaning of all discussions she has with anybody. The mention of Dr boynton was instructive in her original statement (however veiled) because it hows her using similar tactics on a totally unrelated subject.

She is not threatened, but she runs around saying we threaten her.

She is not libeled, but she runs off to lawyers and issues statements saying she's been libelled.

So it's obvious she cannnot be transphobic. Because she says so, even when her every statement on the subject is definitively so.