Dear Julie Thanks for the offer of an informal meeting. The idea of clearing the air certainly is appealing and I appreciate your undertaking not to publish.
However, I do find it difficult discussing these things with you because of the loaded language you use when writing about any issues related to the trans community - for instance (in your initial post at 11.12 am) your use of the words 'victims', 'open mouthed', 'claimed', 'dared', 'appallingly', 'slated', 'insult', 'denied' and your pointed use of quote marks around 'community'. This approach is provocative and it takes self-restraint not to rise to your bait. I know that I can be similarly provocative if I want to, so I recognise when this tactic is being used.
Roz and I could not possibly speak for the rest of the community in this instance and, given that Christine Burns tried on several occasions to build a mutually-respectful rapport with you and subsequently felt betrayed, I wonder whether a meeting about these issues would genuinely serve a useful purpose.
I doubt you would or could allay my fears in this regard.
Nevertheless, when I met you after the 'Hecklers' debate you were perfectly charming and certain mutual friends speak highly of you so I would be open to friendly conversation if we happened to meet socially.
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Re: Regretters
Date: 2010-03-26 06:16 pm (UTC)Thanks for the offer of an informal meeting. The idea of clearing the air certainly is appealing and I appreciate your undertaking not to publish.
However, I do find it difficult discussing these things with you because of the loaded language you use when writing about any issues related to the trans community - for instance (in your initial post at 11.12 am) your use of the words 'victims', 'open mouthed', 'claimed', 'dared', 'appallingly', 'slated', 'insult', 'denied' and your pointed use of quote marks around 'community'. This approach is provocative and it takes self-restraint not to rise to your bait. I know that I can be similarly provocative if I want to, so I recognise when this tactic is being used.
Roz and I could not possibly speak for the rest of the community in this instance and, given that Christine Burns tried on several occasions to build a mutually-respectful rapport with you and subsequently felt betrayed, I wonder whether a meeting about these issues would genuinely serve a useful purpose.
I doubt you would or could allay my fears in this regard.
Nevertheless, when I met you after the 'Hecklers' debate you were perfectly charming and certain mutual friends speak highly of you so I would be open to friendly conversation if we happened to meet socially.
Regards,
Christina