I very carefully did not call you a cis woman. I said you choose to sleep with cis women.
Straight culture did often tell lesbians that their bodies were somehow wrong or broken, as well as their minds. Medicine has a long, long history of trying to surgically, pharmacologically, or otherwise "fix" gays, lesbians, and transpeople.
Plenty of people challenge their gender roles. For some, that is insufficient unto the cause of giving them peace and sanity. Western culture does not have a tradition of a third or fourth sex or gender, which often allows people who are not comfortable in their bodies cultural space to place themselves in a way that gives them a role outside the Western gender binary (but I note that there are often surgical solutions even in cultures that DO have traditions of third or fourth sexes/genders in order to better fit those sexes/genders).
To police other people's bodies and choices, though, the way that you're doing, is falling directly into line with Patriarchy and its mind control. By failing to use a person's chosen pronouns and identification, YOU ARE POLICING THEM -- you are telling them, in no uncertain terms, that they are MISBEHAVING and to GET BACK INTO THAT BOX that you have identified for them. You are telling them that THEY are lesser beings and that ONLY YOUR DEFINITION IS THE RIGHT DEFINITION. You keep saying that you're just stating your belief, but you are actively oppressing a minority by spouting the company line of the majority.
Biphobia here is directly applied to your statement about being "tricked" into sleeping with a transwoman. OH NOES YOU MIGHT HAVE SLEPT WITH SOMEONE WHO ONCE HAD A PENIS YOU MIGHT NOT BE A REAL LESBIAN. That is biphobia (AND transphobia), and it is no better than the men who, upon discovering that they got uncomfortable in their pants for a transwoman, feel it is perfectly allowable to beat or kill said transwoman.
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Date: 2012-04-18 03:55 pm (UTC)Straight culture did often tell lesbians that their bodies were somehow wrong or broken, as well as their minds. Medicine has a long, long history of trying to surgically, pharmacologically, or otherwise "fix" gays, lesbians, and transpeople.
Plenty of people challenge their gender roles. For some, that is insufficient unto the cause of giving them peace and sanity. Western culture does not have a tradition of a third or fourth sex or gender, which often allows people who are not comfortable in their bodies cultural space to place themselves in a way that gives them a role outside the Western gender binary (but I note that there are often surgical solutions even in cultures that DO have traditions of third or fourth sexes/genders in order to better fit those sexes/genders).
To police other people's bodies and choices, though, the way that you're doing, is falling directly into line with Patriarchy and its mind control. By failing to use a person's chosen pronouns and identification, YOU ARE POLICING THEM -- you are telling them, in no uncertain terms, that they are MISBEHAVING and to GET BACK INTO THAT BOX that you have identified for them. You are telling them that THEY are lesser beings and that ONLY YOUR DEFINITION IS THE RIGHT DEFINITION. You keep saying that you're just stating your belief, but you are actively oppressing a minority by spouting the company line of the majority.
Biphobia here is directly applied to your statement about being "tricked" into sleeping with a transwoman. OH NOES YOU MIGHT HAVE SLEPT WITH SOMEONE WHO ONCE HAD A PENIS YOU MIGHT NOT BE A REAL LESBIAN. That is biphobia (AND transphobia), and it is no better than the men who, upon discovering that they got uncomfortable in their pants for a transwoman, feel it is perfectly allowable to beat or kill said transwoman.