the key point here is that you may have already had sex with someone who subsquently transitioned to live as a man. when they slept with you they might have known that they were a man, but were to frightened to admit it publically, and from your perspective you were having sex with a woman.
would you in that case feel that you have been 'tricked' by him? Or would you see 'him' as really her?
So is this about how you identify as a lesbian?
As an example i was at a UK Bicon over 10 years ago when their was woman their i had had sex with back in the eighties. she said how she had never had had sex with a woman, i pointed out she had sex with me and i had identified myself as trans and lesbian through out. But she then told me that she had not seen me a as a woman and thus it didn't count
peronally i found what she said upsetting and now as i write this i feel like I had d been sexually assaulted by her, she lied about how she saw me. If she said she saw me as a man, at the time, i would never ever consented to go to bed with her.
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Date: 2012-04-19 08:09 am (UTC)would you in that case feel that you have been 'tricked' by him?
Or would you see 'him' as really her?
So is this about how you identify as a lesbian?
As an example i was at a UK Bicon over 10 years ago when their was woman their i had had sex with back in the eighties. she said how she had never had had sex with a woman, i pointed out she had sex with me and i had identified myself as trans and lesbian through out. But she then told me that she had not seen me a as a woman and thus it didn't count
peronally i found what she said upsetting and now as i write this i feel like I had d been sexually assaulted by her, she lied about how she saw me. If she said she saw me as a man, at the time, i would never ever consented to go to bed with her.